In ‘How Do Your Negative Behaviours Reward You – Part 1‘, I introduced the concept that the reason people have trouble kicking certain negative behaviour patterns is that they provide some sort of emotional reward. The key to ridding yourself of the pattern is to identify the reward and replace it with something better. In the last post, we applied this concept to 4 negative behaviour patterns, including negativity, being too hard on one’s self, overconfidence and arrogance. Today we’ll apply the concept to four more patterns commonly found in martial arts schools and in general life. (more…)

Tags: bad temper | competitiveness | gossip | judgemental | negative behavior patterns